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At first it was just "a drink to relax," but later it became more than three jin of baijiu a day
The story began more than ten years ago. At that time, this family member only drank occasionally, and no one took it seriously. No one expected that this "little bit" would gradually turn into drinking 50-proof baijiu every day, with the amount rising from a few liang to more than three jin, or even four jin. He couldn't do without alcohol at the dinner table, and he had to have a few sips before going out to handle matters. Family members advised him, argued with him, and cried over it, but once the bottle was opened, all words were in vain.
At first, he just talked more and got easily agitated after drinking. Later, his alcohol tolerance grew, and his body began to develop problems. The physical examination report showed "alcoholic liver damage," and later pancreatitis. Every episode was so painful that he couldn't straighten his back. He was hospitalized, given IV fluids, and quit drinking, but shortly after discharge, he started drinking again. A family member said: "In those years, it was like having a time bomb at home—we never knew when he would end up in the hospital again because of drinking."
The hardest part was not knowing when the next episode would happen
More than two years ago, things got worse. He began saying he smelled strange odors—even though there was nothing in the room, he insisted there was "a foul smell." Sometimes he would talk to the air, saying he heard someone calling his name in his ear. At first, the family thought he was joking, but later they noticed his eyes were glazed and his hands shook so badly he couldn't even hold a cup steady. What frightened everyone most was that one time he suddenly collapsed on the ground, convulsing all over—that was a seizure-like episode.
He was taken to the hospital, and the doctor diagnosed him with "mental and behavioral disorders caused by alcohol use." Only then did the family understand that long-term heavy drinking had damaged his central nervous system. Alcohol is a neurotropic substance. After long-term heavy intake, the brain forms a reward-related neural center and develops dependence on alcohol. If drinking is suddenly stopped, the nervous system loses alcohol's inhibitory effect, and withdrawal symptoms appear. Mild cases involve hand tremors and sweating; severe cases may progress to delirium tremens, or even trigger seizures, presenting danger signals that require immediate help.
During that period, almost everyone in the family took turns watching over him. They worked during the day and cared for him at night, afraid that something would happen when he was alone. But even so, he would still secretly hide and buy alcohol when no one was watching. A family member said: "The hardest part isn't taking care of him—it's not knowing when the next episode will come, or how much longer we can hold on."
We tried many methods, but the alcohol addiction seemed to be embedded in his body
To help him quit drinking, the family took him to several hospitals. Liver protection, anti-seizure medication, antipsychotic treatment... all kinds of conservative treatments were tried. But every time he stopped drinking, the symptoms got worse instead. Medication also had poor results—either the side effects were too severe, or he secretly stopped taking the drugs himself. A family member said: "When he was sober, he also regretted it and wanted to quit, but once the craving hit, he couldn't care about anything else."
The doctor explained that alcohol dependence is an addictive brain disease. In people who drink long-term, the brain's dopamine metabolic pathway has already changed, and both the body and mind have formed a memory of alcohol. This memory cannot be eliminated by willpower alone. Many families, like theirs, find after trying various approaches that conventional treatment has limited effectiveness for severe alcohol dependence.
When conventional methods fail, there is another path worth learning about
After extensive research, they came across stereotactic minimally invasive brain surgery. This is a treatment approach for alcohol-dependent encephalopathy that is difficult to address with medication alone. The principle is to use advanced technology to directly perform multi-target precise intervention on the patient's reward-related neural center, altering the level of dopamine mediators in the brain's dopamine metabolic pathway, and eliminating the patient's physical and psychological memory of rewarding substances or behaviors.
In simple terms, it is a minimally invasive procedure that helps the patient break free from alcohol dependence at the neural level. Of course, this is not a "one-and-done" universal solution—any treatment has its indications and risks. But for families like theirs, where conventional methods have reached a dead end and the family is on the verge of collapse, this is at least a path worth seriously understanding.
A family member said: "We're not expecting a miracle; we just want to find a way that can truly help him break free from alcohol addiction. Even if it just means he no longer thinks about drinking every day, and can eat and sleep normally and talk with us, we would be very satisfied."
Alcohol dependence is a disease, not a matter of "lacking willpower"
Looking back over these ten-plus years, the family's biggest takeaway is this: alcohol dependence is not a willpower issue, but a brain disease that requires professional treatment. Like hypertension or diabetes, it has a clear pathological basis and requires systematic medical intervention. Many families, like theirs, initially treat drinking as a "bad habit," repeatedly persuading, arguing, and seeking medical help, until both physical and mental warning signs light up before they realize how serious the problem is.
If you or a family member is facing a similar situation, please remember: this is not one person's fault, nor is it a problem that can be solved by simply "quitting." Seeking professional medical help and learning about different treatment paths is the first step to protecting yourself and your family. You can start by learning about assessment methods for alcohol dependence, or look at other families' real experiences to find the next step that suits you.
Alcohol dependence is an addictive brain disease that requires professional, systematic medical intervention.